Signs that you're in a toxic relationship

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...And you love so much. Trust me darling, thousands of hints,even  thousands of red flags won't let you see the reality. You'll just see through the rainbow glasses that you're wearing ( or rather say... being worn by your partner)
Here I present the signs that you are in a toxic relationship. Of course it's written after the psychedelic glasses had been broken into pieces and the heart too... So fellas now swallow the hard pills...

1. Knock ! Knock! Soul speaking...
      It might sound odd and surreal, but your soul always spots the negativity. But we get overwhelmed and try to suppress that feeling and try to find the positivity. Of course, being positive is good ,but at least once listen to that mild scream inside you. It might not be a lie.


2. Drained...
    After meeting your favorite person you don't feel wholesome, you just want to feel wholesome. You don't feel free and lively. There's always a hidden tension inside you. You feel drained all time. Peace, where are you?


 3. Give, give, giveaway...
       All you do is to give your best to your partner. But don't receive the same vibes. You feel like it's your duty to satisfy your partner.

4. Me , not us ... 
     Is your partner typically narcissistic? All he/ she does is " me , me , me" ?  The self obsession of him/her gulping all the moment you spend together? Is that always " I" other than "us"?    Sorry dear, deep down your partner doesnt care for you.( It Hurts I know)

 5.  Argue over small issues...
     Here comes the most classic sign.  I know no relationship is perfect, and there will be arguments in any sort. But are all those arguments valid at all? Do you see any effort from the other side to get things right ? :(


6. Efforts...
   You know what is sexy? Efforts. His/ her efforts to be with you. His/ her efforts to make you happy just by some very subtle things. He / she is trying to make you smile . If you see all the efforts are coming from you only... Why are you even in the relationship? Isn't it should be a two way thing?
7. Criticizing, controlling, ruling...???
    "Why are you wearing this shorts?" , " Why don't you picking up my calls right now?" , "Why are you talking to him/her?" Cutie it ain't no possessiveness... It's just some dumb and stupid sign that the person is toxic. The real love won't care about what you are , what you wear, who do you talk... just loves for who you are. <3


8. Self care
   If you are in a relationship which is toxic... You just not feel good about yourself. You don't take care of yourself.you don't feel being you. All you do is to try to fix up.


9. Wish to change
    All you wish that situation will never be the like this. Your partner will change. You try to remember all good times , just put up an imagination and make an illusion of happiness. You just hold up on " maybes" . Stop it now. End it.

10. Always fear to lose...
      A good partner would never let that feeling come in your mind just for a flicker of second. If you feel so , sorry for you .


A good relationship is something that brings peace inside you. That makes you grow as a person together. You feel whole , you feel lively. You smile for no reason, you feel better for no reason. Yes, might sound fairytale but it's true. This is how you should feel in a Happy relationship
     Its never late. It's better to be it today than tomorrow. I know, the love , the affection for someone is never gone. But don't let that turn into hate.   His/ her place will always there inside your heart. You might go to a new relationship  , but never try to find similarities. All will be unique. Keep good memories with you and get over. The world will take care of you .

I intentionally put the negative screams inside you prior to the classic ones. I have always believed in primitive feelings. I have always believed that the heart never lies.It might hyperbole but deep inside it always utters the truths which we can't see or try not to feel .


Hope you guys never feel any of these above mentioned.
Never feel the toxicity.Have a nice and fruitful relationship. Feel the love, celebrate the love.  Bye.
         
                                                                  Anuska. 🌼

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